5 Ways to Overcome Anxiety After a Toxic Relationship.

Overcoming anxiety after being in a toxic relationship can be very difficult. Your body and mind have been on an emotional roller coaster and you may feel completely powerless.

Overcoming anxiety after being in a toxic relationship can be very difficult. Your body and mind have been on an emotional roller coaster and you may feel completely powerless.

A big part of over overall mental health and well being is impacted by our relationships with others. When these become toxic, it can break you apart in ways you might never have thought possible. Even the strongest of us can be completely shattered by a toxic relationship.

Even if your relationship starts off heavenly, it can become anything but. Like many things in life, nothing stays the same forever. We grow and evolve, and therefore our relationships grow with us. Sometimes they can flourish, and other times they can become bitter. However, we often don’t know until it’s too late.

You can read more about healthy relationships here.

A toxic relationship can cause significant harm to your own sense of self-worth, your mental health and how you see the world around you. They can even seep into your other interpersonal relationships.

How do I know if I’m in a toxic relationship?

Some relationships can be toxic from day one, while others sour over time. It can be the fault of one or both parties, and sometimes you simply weren’t meant to be to begin with. Becoming aware of a toxic relationship can be distressing. You might want to leave but not know how, or you might want to work at it. And while it can be more trouble than it’s worth to stay, it’s by no means hopeless. Until it is.

By knowing the signs of a toxic relationship, even if you stay, you’re better able to identify the behaviours. This gives you back some control and power, allowing you to draw the line when things get too much.

While all people and relationships may have aspects of the following at some time, that doesn’t make them toxic. However, if these signs pop up consistently, loudly and are damaging your own self-esteem, then it might be time to call it quits.

  • You’re always waiting for the bomb to drop.
  • You avoid saying what you need to out of fear or because it falls on deaf ears.
  • There’s no effort.
  • You’re the one constantly compromising.
  • All the hard work comes from you.
  • NO very much feels like a dirty word.
  • You’re both constantly keeping score.
  • Physical, verbal or emotional abuse.

Have you any other signs you’d like to share that haven’t already been mentioned?


5 Ways to overcome anxiety after a toxic relationship.

This is a guest section written by Sam from Travels with my boys.

Overcoming anxiety after being in a toxic relationship can be very difficult. Your body and mind have been on an emotional roller coaster, and it’s not uncommon to feel powerless. While things may seem confusing and uncertain now, overtime you’ll slowly begin to heal. Here are five helpful tips to help you on your way.

1. Daily Affirmations.


It might sound silly but by placing positive affirmations all around your house you can help combat negative self-talk. You can place them over mirrors and doors. And even on the dashboard of your car! They work best when said aloud and repeated daily. This way your brain is better able to retain and retrain!

2. Never be afraid to talk about it.


This can be really challenging for someone with anxiety, but it can help to talk to someone. Are you wondering why talking to people helps? Talking to someone about what’s on your mind can help you figure it out and calm the noise in your head. While it can be difficult, it’s better to push past the doubt and talk things over.

Trust me, you’re not a burden!

3. Practice gratitude.


It may seem strange after everything you’ve been through in your toxic relationship. However, being thankful for even the small things, helps encourage you to see the bigger picture. You could start a gratitude journal, and before going to bed write down three things you are thankful for that happened that day. This will calm your brain and overtime help reduce overthinking.

4. Do something that you love.


When you’re within a toxic relationship, it’s common to stop doing the things that make you happy. It’s not uncommon to feel like you’ve lost yourself. That’s why it’s so important to participate in self-care. Start off small if it feels strange to you.

  • Read a book
  • Go for a drive
  • Paint or colouring
  • Go for a walk in nature

Giving yourself some self-love is a big step towards overcoming your anxiety. When you loose yourself in a toxic relationship, you need to retrain yourself to realise you are strong, you are beautiful and you can do this!

Learn to listen to your body and take a break when your body needs it. If you keep pushing yourself to empty it can make your anxiety even worse. Its time to look after you.

5.Try some meditation or practice yoga.


When you have anxiety you feel like your constantly on the go and can get drained quite quickly. This is why it’s easy to try meditation or yoga. There are many Youtube videos or podcasts to help you learn. Especially now that COVID-19 is preventing us from going to classes.

If meditation or yoga doesn’t seem like your “thing”, then there are other techniques you can try when your brain is on overdrive. One simple technique that can help is learn how to breathe. Now that may sound silly but when your brain is in the frantic mode we can often forget to breathe. Stop, take a breath, and think of five things to ground you.

There is no quick fix for beating anxiety, and it can be hard work but some of the steps included above will put you on the road to a better life. You CAN beat your anxiety and you WILL beat your anxiety.


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22 comments

  1. Kaan Yıldırım’la olan ilişkisinin kendisini yorduğunu ve Mehmet Dinçerler’e ilk görüşte aşık olduğunu belirten Hadise,
    ‘Kaan beni çok yordu. Savaştan çıkmış gibiydim.
    Daha önce bitirmek istedim, ‘toparlayalım’ diye yalvardı.
    Her şeyime karışıyordu; işime, fotoğraflarıma.
    ‘Ailem ilişkinin basında çıkmasını istemiyor.’ diyordu.

    Mesaj atıp bitirdim. Kendisine tahammülüm kalmadığını belirttim.
    Mehmet ise ilk bakışta aşk oldu” dedi.
    yeni sevgilisi

  2. Getting away from a toxic relationship with someone is never easy as well as the aftermath. Those are some wonderful points to keep in mind and thanks for sharing them with us.

  3. Great guide and I am happy that you write about this, and I think it will help some people is just broken up and felt hurt. Knycx Journeying

  4. I understand its very difficult to recover from a toxic relationship. Quite useful information here.

  5. It’s good advice not to be afraid to talk about it. It’s so hard if the other person gets defensive when you’re trying to work through something, but it’s worth the effort to get past that…

  6. I am a big fan of yoga for dealing with anxiety and stress. This post is something I will refer back to in the future

  7. Thank you so much for sharing. a friend of mine went through something really bad and this is helpful!

  8. It may be difficult to recover, but it can be done! As long as you have a good support group, and the will to emerge as a better person, then it is possible! Thank your for this post. It will help so many.

  9. These are great and helpful tips for some who came into this kind of relationship. Thank you!

  10. A toxic relationship such a painful for any kind of relationship. Sometimes its too hard to realize that our life is toxic .

  11. This is going to help a lot of people. I think many of us have found ourselves in toxic relationships. It’s hard to bounce back from those.

  12. Hi Nyxie, again such a wonderful informative post. Its great to write about such things as some people are so unaware, plus interlinked with the positive greenflags post, it will really help some people.

  13. This is such a great post and something that I could truly resonate with. I think we have all been in a toxic relationship at one stage or another. Sadly.

  14. Damn this is a good one lovely. I’ve never read a post about this topic before but so many of us have been in toxic relationships. I was in one quite young, from around 16 and a half to a month before my 18th birthday. Although we’re civil now, it was a horrendous relationship looking back. And I didn’t think I was affected by it much afterwards but looking back, I probably was.

  15. There were many toxic aspects to a past relationship that ended more than 5 years ago and I still shudder to think about how long I put up with his horrible behaviour and treatment of me. Journaling, talking (therapy) and gratitude are definitely key players in healing. I think a lot of people will benefit from this article.

  16. I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Having been through a horrible relationship myself, I can’t tell you how happy I am that I found my husband. I’m sure you feel the same. x

  17. How I wish I had had this post when I got divorced. My ex-husband often cheated on me, verbally and physically abused me, lied to me, stole money from me. But he’s what you’d call a “nice guy” – everyone just loved him! It came as quite a shock when we announced our divorce, and I know a lot of people figured it was me, because Mr. Nice Guy would never been the reason for a divorce. It really messed with my head. I just wanted to shout about all the things he did to me, but I couldn’t.

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