5 things I like about myself right now.

5 Things I like about myself right now.

What 5 things do you like about yourself? Does this come easily to you, or does it take a little extra brain power?

This is a hard one for me, especially today. I’m going home to see family and I have just thrown on the comfiest clothing I could find, threw my hair up into a bun and haven’t put on makeup (I rarely do). I don’t often feel good about myself, physical appearance or otherwise. I can’t help but think this wouldn’t be the case if I just made more of an effort, but I love comfort and convenience to much to give it up. 

Things have not been good lately both in recovery and my personal life. This is only adding to the self-critical voice in my head, and I’m finding it a little harder to fight lately.  

That being said the prompt needs to be complete. Consider this my way of battling against the negative voice in my head, and coming up with 5 things I like about myself. 


One.

Creativity; Since starting my blog in January, and then publishing it in March, I’ve had a surge of creativity lately.

I’ve always been creative in that I love to write short stories and sketch/paint, but this fell to the wayside in exchange for academic studies. After being signed off sick from work I vowed to find that part of me again through whatever means possible.

It started with learning to knit, then painting our home office and, finally, getting back to writing. I don’t want to speak too soon but I think rediscovering my creative side is actually going rather well. 

Two.

Eyes; My eyes are a constant favourite of mine no matter what. Some mornings they are grey, some afternoons they are blue and sometimes, at no particular time at all, they are an ocean green. These are very slight changes but something I notice because I look at my eyes so much.

Apparently, it’s not odd for that to happen either, and there are a lot of studies to prove that eye colour can be changed due to pupil size, mood, and age! 

Another reason I think I like my eyes is that, unlike my body, eye’s can’t be changed or outwardly judged by others. 

“The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.”

Audrey Hepburn

Three.

Empathic/Sensitive nature; There was a time I would have considered this a curse. Hence why I tried to smother all my emotions with the use of destructive behaviours. It’s just not the done things to be sensitive, especially not as a modern, professional woman working among a male-dominated workforce. 

I realise now that this isn’t so much a curse as a gift! I can embrace my sensitivity and use it to help others. I’ve found that I’m extremely open to other peoples emotions, and I seem to have a knack to know what needs to be said and to who. I can’t help it if I’m more inclined to give someone the benefit of the doubt, or that I have a very understanding and diplomatic personality; That’s just me. 

I want to help the world and the people in it. I want to listen and give advice when needed, and so far that has served me pretty well in my own recovery. My lack of confidence in this still gets in my way when speaking to family, but when trying to help a friend or a stranger, it just flows naturally. 

I need to hone those skills and feed that part of myself, rather than starving it. 

Four.

Determination; My own determination often surprises me. That is that I am taken off guard with my own ability to drive myself to success. If someone is disappointed in me or tells me I can’t do something, I’ll work at it until I make it! This is especially true at the moment in regards to my blog! I am more determined than ever to make this work! 

Not only that but after the passing of my grandfather last week I feel that I owe it to him to not only get myself right but to let go of the stress and shoot for happiness. 

Five.

Resilience; The last few days of my life have been anything but perfect. The same could be said for the last few months but to a lesser extent. 

This past week I lost my grandfather, a wonderful man who meant the world to me and his family. I was there when he died. I cried, I carried tea and sandwich at the wake, I mourned at the funeral and now I am grieving. I always imagined that when I would lose those closest to me that I would also fall down with them. I imagined that I was too weak to cope with loss, but it isn’t the case. Surprisingly. 

The maintenance of my meal plan has not gone according to plan and I managed to run almost 72 hours on a few sandwiches at most. That’s grief and busyness of a wake. Yes, I should have tried harder, but no matter. 

My resilience is something to be admired, and I never thought I would ever say that about myself. 

That’s it! Possibly one of the most difficult blog posts I’ve ever had to write to date.

I know part of recovery is learning to talk to yourself and love yourself for who you are, but it’s so hard to break a lifetime of self-hatred in a matter of weeks or months. I don’t know if I will ever learn to like myself let alone love myself, but I will certainly give it my best shot!

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82 thoughts on “5 things I like about myself right now.

  1. I love this list of things you love about yourself! Self love is so important to remember it finding things to love about yourself can be hard, it would take me more than a day to be able to write and finish a post like this, thank you for sharing and as always inspiring! Such a lovely post!💝

    1. Thank you for reading honey! Always a pleasure to see your name appear in my comment box! I hope you are being kind to yourself today! x

  2. This is a really positive and inspiring post. Self-love is so important but can be so challenging too. Thank you for the reminder that we should be kinder to ourselves and focus on our strengths and qualities. Also, so sorry to hear about your grandfather, Nyxie. Sending lots of love to you <3 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

  3. I’m sorry for your loss. Loosing loved ones really sucks. As for feeling that you constantly have to make an effort with your appearance, I’ve been there and it took me a long long time to stop feeling weird about not wearing make-up. I guess living by the beach where everything melts straight off your face again helps in the process. You’re beautiful by the way.

  4. I see how this could be such a hard post to write. I feel like we don’t give ourselves enough credit or just love in general. It’s important that we can love ourselves openly and I think you did great 😊

    1. I think everyone needs to take 5 minutes to assess what they really like and admire about themselves. This was so hard for me to do but when i actually sat and thought about it all these things that I am proud of started jumping out at me!

      Thank you so much for stopping by 😀

  5. This is a great post. Resilience is so important, and it sounds like you’re doing an awesome job at it. Thanks for sharing your story on recovery!

  6. Great post! Self-love is important to remember but challenging to do. We have to remember to be kind to ourselves and focus less on the negatives. Thank you for sharing such a lovely and inspiring post. And I’m sorry to hear about your grandfather.

    Best wishes,

    Angela

  7. I think it’s a great idea to list things you like about yourself. I would also add that you are honest and kind. Thanks for the encouraging post!

  8. These are beautiful things to like about yourself. My eyes are green that also change colour. Sometimes they look blue and others when I cry they are BRIGHT green.
    Thank you for sharing with us.
    Alyssa
    THESACREDSPACEAP.COM

    1. I’m so glad I’m not the only one who appears to have magic eyes! No one believes me when I tell them they change colour, but HA, I have proof!

  9. It’s so nice to hear somebody has determination, I have it very seldom. I’m working on that though. It’s great to met you!

  10. First, I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my grandfather, who was more like a father, last year. You do find strength you didn’t know you had when you go through such a loss.

    Second, this a great post. It’s so important to recognize your personal strengths, and the things you like about yourself!

    1. Thank you. I am coping remarkably well with the loss, but it comes in waves as I’m sure you know. I just remind myself that my grandfather would want me to be happy and continue on my recovery, so I plan on doing just that! So long as I remember to look after my mother and my grandmother in the process. xx

  11. This is a beautiful list. I don’t know you well, but I feel I’ve learnt a lot about you from your blog and you are a wonderful person, you write so beautifully and with such knowledge and experience to share.

    Lovely post 💕

  12. Finding the positive in that space can be such a hard thing to do. But listing the five things you love about yourself is such a good way to reconnect with that energy of self-love. Thank you for sharing so vulnerably and honestly.

  13. This is great! We seem to have a lot in common as well! I have the same thing happen with my eyes:) I also consider myself lucky to be empathetic. I see things many people don’t have the correct mind set to see. Loved your post!

  14. I love that you found 5 things you like about yourself even in the moment when you don’t feel in the best of places. I think that the more you search for things that you like and love about yourself the more that one grows to love oneself overall.

    Your creativity and determination and way that you are creating opportunities for yourself astounds me and I am always so so proud of you!

  15. Sorry to hear you’re not in the best of places right now! I love the idea of listing 5 things you like about yourself – it seems like such a refreshing exercise.
    El xx

  16. I love that this is a mixture of characteristics and physical traits. It isn’t always in our nature to look for the positives in ourselves so good on you for focusing and building a list. This can also serve as something to look back on whenever you need a pick-me-up. 🙂

    1. Thank you so much for your kind comment. I hope that when times get bad I can look back on this post and be reminded of my positives!

  17. I LOVE THIS! The fact that you took the time to point out the things you love about yourself, show so much courage because we often beat ourselves up more than what we embrace and want to be proud off, I love this! This is a great example as how we should be towards ourselves, instead of focusing on the negative focus on the things we love, great post!

  18. Great post! This is a hard one for me, especially today! But to pick one, I have to go with – I love my spiritual side! I have come a long way and am proud I can say that today! I used to run, hide, deny that side of myself for a long time.

  19. Love this one Nyxie!
    Self love is hard and sometimes it feels like a humongous task. But I love your take on resilience. I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope you find your peace soon.
    PS: I love my eyes too. they’re the best part of me 🙂
    Love,
    Shalvika

  20. Those are some great things to love about yourself! I’m so sorry to hear about your grandfather. I hope things get better for you soon!

  21. These are five tremendous things to love about yourself! You’ve inspired me to really focus in on the things I love about myself because I, like you, tend to have to put a bit of thought into it. I know off the bat my fortitude and resilience through all the ups and downs this life as thrown at me will make my list.

  22. I think writing this kind of a post, especially when you may not be feeling it in the moment, is incredibly important and it will serve you well, and hopefully also inspire others 🙂

    – Laura || afinnontheloose.com

  23. I think this is a good writing exercise to try. No one is harder on us than ourselves. I hope that you remember the things you wrote down whenever you are feeling critical of yourself, especially while you are grieving. Good luck.

  24. I love this idea of writing down things you like about yourself, it’s such a positive activity to do. It’s so hard sometimes to get ourselves out of a negative mindset, but I think doing something like this can be so rewarding, and I feel like you find that you end up surprising yourself about how much you actually like about yourself.

    I’m sorry to hear about your grandfather, it’s such a heartbreaking thing to go through. <3

    Chloe xx
    http://www.chloechats.com

  25. I needed this post, especially lately! I’ve been trying to fix the way I talk to myself (lol) because I’m just not nice! I’ll try on a pair of pants and instantly tell myself “no way, fatty, these aren’t happening”. I realized recently just how toxic this way of thinking is and I’m really striving to love myself and treat myself better. Sorry to hear about your grandfather 🙁

    1. Thank you for your condolences. I am so glad that you came across this post at the right time! I hope you continue to be nicer when speaking to yourself, I know it’s not easy.

  26. I love this post! It’s such a positive one, and I think we should all try to think about what we love about ourselves and not what we hate. I am so guilty of it! x

  27. What a wonderful post! It’s so important to try and focus on what we love about ourselves rather than all the negatives xxx

  28. I’m sorry to hear about your grandfather. I think this is a super positive post! It’s good to sit down and compliment and enjoys things you like about yourself because you can’t depend on others to do it for you. I think resilience is an AWESOME character trait <3

    Natonya | https://justnatonya.wordpress.com/

    1. Thank you so much for stopping by, and thank you for your condolences! I never thought I would be resilient in times of trouble, but it just goes to show what a difference a change in mindset makes.

  29. This is such a lovely post, everyone is so focused on what they don’t like about each other, so this is such a lovely positive post. Thank you for sharing ❤️Xx

  30. This is something we should all do from time to time. Sometimes we focus on all the negative parts that we just don’t notice the good parts.
    Having empathy is a huge thing – if there was more empathy in the world, it would be a nicer place.
    Lovely post.

  31. This was a very thoughtfully written piece. I think that it is so important that we take time to think about all the things that make us feel good and confident about ourselves. In a society where we are not taught to value ourselves this can not be a more crucial time to do this! I really like that you went deep and talked about resilience and determination and creativity because it is those things that make us truly unique individuals. 🙂

  32. This is something I have never done for myself. I have always listened instead to the critical voices around me and in my head. I should actually sit down and come up with 5 things of my own. Thank you for the inspiration!

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